In this reflection, I want to share how I learned to surrender with trust—even when it meant letting go of the people I loved most.
There was a time when I held on so tightly – To people. And to plans. To outcomes. I believed that if I just did everything right, I could make life behave. (Spoiler alert: life had other ideas.)
Letting go felt like giving up. But eventually, I learned there’s a difference.
Giving up comes from fear. Letting go comes from trust.
There’s a quiet magic in surrender. It doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you’ve stopped gripping so tightly that you can’t breathe.
What Does It Really Mean to Surrender with Trust?
One of the biggest acts of surrender in my life was when I stepped back and allowed my teenage children to choose to live with their dad.
It broke me.
I felt like a failure. Like the worst mum in the world. My heart was torn in two. I thought they didn’t love me anymore. But deep down, I knew that wasn’t true.
They were torn too. They loved us both. And, unbeknownst to me, my ex had been planting seeds—sharing stories that weren’t true.
Still, I let them go. And I cried like I’d never cried before. No one tells you just how much parenting can break your heart.
But in that moment, I chose to surrender – not in defeat, but in deep love. I trusted the bond we had. I trusted the truth would find its way. And it did.
It wasn’t easy. It took time. But they came back to me – not to live, but in their hearts and minds.
And our relationship now? Stronger than it’s ever been.
Surrender didn’t tear us apart. It brought us home.
Your Turn:
Is there something you’re gripping tightly right now that’s quietly asking to be released?
Take a breath. Tune in. And ask yourself: what would it feel like to trust instead of control?
With love,
Debi x
